The ONE

I remember I used to always think it was bull when people said, "When you find 'the one,' you'll know." It just seemed too simple, and what in life is actually simple?! My cynical self used to retaliate with, "Well, if there's a 'one' out there, and for some tragic reason you lose them, does that mean you're destined to never find love again?" I used to also argue that it just seemed too simplistic, and that love and relationships are more complicated than that, and who's to say sometimes love doesn't take time and energy to develop?

For how young I am, I've had a variety of bad relationship experiences, which is probably why I used to be so cynical. I've been cheated on, betrayed, lied to, psychologically abused, and just flat out hurt. Sometimes it's not even something "so bad," but instead someone just didn't love me back enough or give to me near what I gave to them. In those relationships where I felt like I loved the other person more than they loved me, I just always hoped one day we would be on the same level, and it hurt that it wasn't. I told myself I wasn't a needy person, so I could handle not getting as much love, time, and attention from someone as I gave to them.

I was dumb, and selling myself short. I believe I have found the ONE now, and I finally see what people are talking about when they say, "You'll just know." This relationship is very uncomplicated, but never boring. I haven't been with my boyfriend that long, but I know he's the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. In the past, I said I wanted a future with this person or that person, but I could never actual envision it, and it never really seemed as appealing as it should have. But with this love, I feel like I am with my best friend, my soul's counterpart, and the male version of me. If I got tired of him, it would be like getting tired of myself! I have never been so happy or so in love, and equally loved by my partner.

So how do you "just know" when you've found the one? Well, for me, here are some of the reasons:

• I see something amazing in his eyes I've never seen in anyone else's, and I feel like they were made for me. Hey, the eyes are the key to the soul, right?
• I don't have doubts or questions, or a bunch of insecurities about how he feels about me, how I feel for him, or what will happen to us.
  
• When I think about a future with him, nothing seems scary or questionable.
  
• When he tells me he will love me for the rest of his life, I believe him.
• When I say I will love him the rest of my life, I know it's true.
• We accept each other completely for who we are, and are extremely comfortable around each other. I never have to feel insecure about him not liking one of my traits!
• I light up and have a giant stupid smile anytime I think or talk about him.
• We see the world in the same way, share the same values, and sometimes I feel like he practically reads my thoughts cause he says what I'm thinking!
• Things have fallen to place so well without us trying to force it along.
• Our feelings are mutual... no unbalance of how much attention and love we give to each other.
  

I know this post may seem super sappy, but it has been really important to me having all those not-so-great relationship experiences that taught me so much about what I DIDN'T want, then finding something that is just SO RIGHT. And as much as I try to explain this love, it still doesn't compare to what I feel! I'm a lucky woman! :)